CHAPTER 4: EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS

    Emotions and feelings play a predominant and decisive role in our day-to-day life. At home in dealing with relatives, our behavior is imbued with feelings and emotions either in mild or intense forms. When, after a long time, you meet your affectionate mother or loving spouse, the tender emotions of love and joy overwhelm you. On returning home after a long business trip, when your sweet toddler manages to run up to the doorstep shouting, “Mummy, Mummy,” the surge of intense emotion of motherly love engulfs your entire being.

    On the other hand, the daily life in the family also presents situations that overpower us with anger or irritations. In the office or social gatherings, we remain well guarded against betraying emotions, even in provocative situations though we experience a variety of them ranging from joy and happiness to nervousness, irritation, and anger.

    Experiencing emotions is just the beginning of the drama of life. The more crucial stage that follows is the unfolding of feelings in the form of our actions and decisions. Our thoughts and actions are governed and shaped by the impulses of emotions. Even when we perceive ourselves as thinking or acting coolly, emotions are quietly operating in the background as mood or disposition of the moment. Though we may not notice or recognize it, their ubiquitous and hidden presence is undeniably there.

    We are all familiar with the obstinate nature of emotions. They are indeed very difficult customers to be handled. Many complications and troubles in life ensue from the unyielding and arbitrary forces of emotions. The problems of stress and depression are rooted in the inexorable nature of emotions. One feels helpless and spellbound against the force of emotions. For instance, when one is angry, it is difficult to act wisely. Similar behavioral lapses occur in the fits of other emotions.

    No wonder, we tend to be wary of feelings and relegate them to a lower position in comparison to reason. That is, however, a fl awed idea. It has been now well established that the role of feelings and emotions is much more crucial than we normally realize. In neurological research, it is discovered that our reasoning ability gets seriously eroded when the areas of brain responsible for feelings and emotions are damaged.

    Our reasoning ability is not only rooted in feelings and emotions but also governed by them. It is beyond doubt that they are the primary psychic forces, which govern the biomechanics of life in order to ensure its survival and wellbeing. Given their enormous significance in shaping and commanding the mental processes of thinking, reasoning, and memory as well as our behavior, it is essential to understand the nature and operation of emotions and feelings…Read more in the book……

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